Do you take the initiative to go and get what you want? Or do you find yourself reacting to people and situations? Perhaps you have been conditioned to please others, or never received encouragement to take risks. Maybe you're a person who feels powerless about influencing your outcomes so you let other people in your life make all the choices. You may be so afraid of failure that you don't even try.There is a better way :Be the chooser. When you become the chooser something amazing happens in your life: you take initiative and responsibility for your outcomes. You are in charge of creating what you want in your life. You literally move from the passenger seat to the driver's seat in the vehicle that is your life. Think about what that means.Being a chooser will help you to see your life from the inside out.
In other words, you create the life experiences based on your criteria for living a fulfilling life. It is not about being selfish - it is about being self-Full. You are not driven by other people's opinions, expectations or wants. You have a clear vision for your life and relationship and you are not willing to compromise for less than you deserve. Why would you?There is a story you may have heard from the 1001 Arabian Tales, where a King married and then killed his new bride every night. Scheherazade, his last bride stayed alive by recounting stories. One of those stories is about a prince who was in search of his perfect bride. He had his craftsmen build a doorway with the silhouette outline of his perfect woman.All the single females of the kingdom were required to pass through the door. As you can imagine, some were too tall and had to stoop to pass under the doorway. Others were too thin; some were too wide and had to pass through the doorway sideways. The point is, thousands of women passes through the door until one day a woman stood there with no gaps fit perfectly into the mold he had created for his perfect mate.
The lesson is a profound one for singles who have a clear understanding of their relationship requirements and needs. When you take the time to figure out the attributes of your ideal partner and ideal relationship, you can build your own mold. When you someone doesn't fit your mold, why would you feel upset? You wouldn't- because you are a chooser!As a chooser you also realize that the person you wish to attract will want to be with you and will love you because of who you are - not in spite of it. The more you are authentically you, the more you drive your life, based on where you want it to go, the easier it will be for the love of your life to find and connect with you. So, be the chooser!
It sounds logical and it's history before you know it: saying 'I do' to wedding vows and especially the 'for better or for worse'-part of it. At the time these words are spoken, there is invariably a situation that can be categorized under 'for better'. Wedding ceremonies are festive and when you're in a festive mood, you don't ponder on what you're actually saying. If newly weds to-be would comtemplate this step, sales of wedding rings would very likely diminish.Better timesTwo people who decide to spend the rest of their lives together, make their intentions official by getting married. They have known each other for a long time, share a positive outlook on life and are not only lovers, but pals as well. Both partners also have a steady income, a factor that has little to do with love, but is definitely important for stability and the sense of equality.
No one will deny that there's a financial component in most marriages.That's the beautiful and fortunately often true story of the principal figures in a wedding. Not rarely children are already part of the plan. Children are of course welcome -when the time is right- to make the fairy-like picture complete.Worse timesBefore the wedding there may have been some disagreements, but those problems could easily be solved by focusing on the 'bigger picture'. But after the status of married couple has been realized, the world doen't look much better at all, and the bigger picture is not so visible anymore.The bliss that characterized the period before the marriage, is nowhere to be found and less agreeable feelings, like irritation, start to creep into the picture (a person's rudeness can suddenly become very annoying).
Not necessarily a threat to the survival of the marriage, but what happens when real misery knocks on your door? When you lose your job and you have lost most of your appeal in the eyes of your partner?Time for contemplationIs getting married a good idea? For older generations it was only natural. But also nowadays lots of young women -and men apparently- feel that marriage is an obvious choice. There's a lot of marrying going on, but divorces come in large numbers too. One might conclude that too little contemplation is spent on the consequences of the words 'I do'.
A woman's weakness is the neatness and cleanliness of her home. She wants it more than Asian art. A woman whose heart does not desire such lacks a fragment of her womanhood. A woman's satisfaction is beauty. She has to like her home. She needs to see everything around her fine to include her few things at home like furniture, wardrobe, herself and her child.Yet no matter how she desires these simple whims and no matter how she acts on them if some emotional torture is going on in her life which she Is positive that is being intentionally inflicted on her, desire for such simple want can fade away. She would settle to something she did not want or could not even take and it is quite maddening because women have two first loves. It is to see herself looking good and making her little abode to look quite nice and cozy to live at. It is happiness. It is peace. Her little place may not be grand but it is neat, nice, and the most important part of all, it is private. It is class. It is like looking for artworks for sale in a gallery or perhaps online instead of hopping from street to street road checking on crafts.
People are locked in to their own respective units as opposed to other places where you see neighbours in the middle of the road gossiping while there is a common scenario of the king and his sidekick whom all the neighbours had to bow down to and anyone whom they spot on with charisma who has been unintentionally getting the attention of the neighbours is a threat to them. In such a road, no one would back you up because they are scared. No one wants to end up a dead meat.
Any woman of silence and of finesse will be provoked to fight and be fierce with such kind of people around.A woman will then realize that her behaviour depends on the situation intentionally inflicted to her. Her behaviour will largely depend on the kind of people she is being surrounded by. And this only means that for every kind of person is a proper place. Stooping down once in a while like being civil with people is fine but being in such environment for a long time with the kind of people whom you cannot take is sickening. This goes well too with someone whom a woman is with in her house. A home is a woman's first love. It should not be compromised and this includes whom she has to be with inside her little abode of Asian art.