Don't be fooled by this whole New Age crap that tells you that you have to give in order to receive. You may think that it is very noble to give your money and possessions away. But you will go bankrupt before you ever get a thank you from any one of your receivers. The whole obsession with attracting abundance into your life is a fallacy. People just say that to sell books and to fill seats in workshops and conference centers. Most of us are never going to have an abundance of money. Because abundance is not really about money, it's about love. Sadly, our approach to love is the same as our approach to money. We just can't get enough of it.Let's face it. We live in a world where there's limited resources. As far as I can tell, it's always been that way. It started with the barter system, where everything was based on a trade. People traded crops for services and services for crops.
However, the barter system got a little complicated, when people's services or crops were no longer needed. Then, someone came up with the brilliant idea to create money, a currency system that enabled people to buy whatever they wanted. People started to provide their services and products for money.Now, people can't get the barter system out of their heads. When they go out and buy something. They want to get the best deal possible. They are looking for a bargain, a steal; the best deal money can buy. Why do people behave like this? Because they understand that resources are scarce and they have to get their money to stretch as far as possible.Similarly, people have this same approach when it comes to love and relationships. They treat love like it's a currency. They will give love, only when they know they are going to get love in return. We treat love as if it's a currency, or some kind of stock option that we can lose money on.
Then, we are disappointed when the people we love don't do what we say, or don't behave the way we would have liked them to behave. We treat love like it is some kind of investment. When it starts to tank. We want to toss away our love like it was some kind of cheap knock-off bag.Our loneliness is a result of our conditioning; we are reared to believe that love is scarce. It is something that we have to work for, or something that we have to earn. So we go through life, writing '"love checks" mistakenly believing that other people are going to meet our needs. We do things to please other people; we make so many sacrifices just to feel loved. But love is not a sell-out. It cannot be brought or sold. Love is the only resource that is unlimited. The only thing that we have in abundance is love.However, we create a lot of problems when we feel that love has to be rationed, when we put all these conditions on love. Loving with certain expectations is the wrong way to love. Why? Because 99.9% of the time you are going to be disappointed.
The truth of the matter is that no one will ever be able to meet your needs better than you. No one can love you better than you. Once you understand this, you understand your richness, your wealth, and your value in life.Then you can become fearless. You are able to rip the chains off your heart. And you can write those "love checks" as if you have billions of dollars in the bank. You will never be afraid of taking a loss. Because you are never at a loss when it comes to love. This is why people say that its better to give than to receive.